How To Maintain Long Distance Relationship

Schedule communication

The quality and quantity of communication with your woman will need to increase substantially when you embark on long-distance relationships. Be prepared for this increase in verbal Olympics. Make sure your phone bill is ready as well by switching to a new cell phone plan with unlimited long distance or make sure your landline carrier is providing the best rates. You will need to be on the same page with your girl as far as frequency goes; will you speak three times a week or once a day? If you’re not on the same page, one party will feel slighted and an insurmountable rift will begin to develop between the two of you that will make the physical distance seem minuscule.

During long-distance relationships you'll want to go ahead and physically schedule communication time on your calendar. Your relationship is certainly as important as any other meeting you may have written down. If you have to miss a “date,” be sure to let her know just as you would any business contact. Bridges are especially easy to burn from so far away. Try closing the gap with video chat, such as Skype.com or TokBox.com.

Schedule visits

Visits act like mini-ends. A weekend together is vitally important at least once every six weeks. For all the Jetson-like qualities of video chat, there is no plug-in to replicate touch or smell -- at least not yet. And since smell is the strongest sense tied to memory, you’ll want to keep up physical relations during long-distance relationships. A trip to visit your significant other every once in a while shows her that you still care, and that she’s still very important to you no matter how far away she is.

Don’t just go and visit each other though. Instead, try to create something uniquely you. Taking mutual vacations away from your respective lives creates newness in your relationship and keeps it progressing. It’s important that your relationship continues to grow, not just maintains, despite the distance.

Raise your trust level

When living a great deal of your lives away from each other in a long distance relationship it’s natural that you develop some of your once-laudable independent tendencies. Proceed with caution, however, since she’s going to be developing the same independent instincts. Stories will begin to revolve around people you’ve never heard of and she’ll begin to take on certain characteristics you won’t recognize. Your role will change slightly as well. In a proximal relationship of this caliber, most of your free time is spent with each other.

If you were in charge of planning dates and filling free time, someone else is going to be filling that role. It’s not an attack against you, so try not to show too much jealousy. Let her know you still care and love your role in her life, but you can’t be an anchor from hundreds of miles away.

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When it comes to long-distance relationships the name of the game is prioritizing what’s important to the both of you. If it’s family or a relationship that you find occupying the top spot, great, but you’ll have to sacrifice your career a little bit. If you are both career-oriented people and can put your relationship on the back burner for a while, then a long-distance relationship may be for you. It’s all about weighing the ups and downs associated with what you want from your life.

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We Are Who We Have Loved ❤

Recently I don't know why I am so brilliant to read some of advise article and guess what I have found this interesting article about L.O.V.E

So I decided to post this  to you GIRL MY SWEETY and to THE GUYS out there whom read this article. Sorry if you think we are bias and think all girls are right but boys are 'THE GUILTY' ♠ ♣ ♥ ♦ No! Absolutely incorrect, Im here talking about what's the right and what's the wrong. I don't mean to bias.

First, this is my favourite list ' IF A MAN IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, MOVE ON GIRLS, AND QUICKLY' better leave him for your sake. You better love yourself first before you learn to love someone else. It's really sad when you want so much to be part of another's person life, only to realize that you're low on his priority list. It shatters your self-esteem, so why not save yourself the inevitable embarrassment and pain ? I remember a relationship where I was the only one constantly keep remembered him and contacting him rather than the other way around. He felt why he should do that, because he believe this just will bring dull and boring into our relationship ! And for sake he doesn't want our relationship will broke down so he refuses to contact me. But I wonder why he so hyperactive then to his girl friends. Why the person deserve to get special treats from you,but you just ignore. WTF right ? 

'YOU CAN'T MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM' this is the second. Unfortunately, love doesn't work that way. He might grow to like you a lot because you're caring, but woman deserve more than being merely liked a lot by the man she loves. She deserves to be truly, madly, deeply loved.

Third, ' IF A MAN REALLY LOVES A WOMAN, HE'D MARRY HER' If you've reached a stage in the relationship where the next natural step is a ring but he hems and haws whenever you mention this, the painful truth is he's not that into you. You're wasting your time with him.

'IF A MAN LOVES YOU,HE'LL BUY YOU PRESENTS.

Next, 'DONT'T CLING ON TO LOVE FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE' do you know what I mean ? There are situations where love alone can't solve everything. It's an ill-fated love. Accept it as a cruel fact of life, grieve over it even, then let it go. I've found that if you try hard enough, love can die or at least recede into a whisper of a bitter-sweet memory even the most ardent and genuine of love.

'KEEP AN OPEN MIND' so you might have an image of what your perfect husband should be like but get over it. Remember this then Life's not a Fantasy.

Most important,especially to MISS MONEY-DIGGER is 'DON'T BE OVERWHELMED BY A MAN'S FANCY CAR, FANCY HOUSE OR FANCY CLOTHES' It's really the person inside the car, house and clothes that matters. By the same token, don't be under-whelmed by a less-than-fancy car, house or clothes. Women can earn the car and house themselves, and you can always buy your man nice clothes too.

'DON'T UNDERESTIMATE KINDNESS, GENTLENESS AND PATIENCE IN A MAN'

'IF YOU DON'T LOVE THE WAY HE LOOKS, THE WAY HE SOUNDS AND THE WAY HE SPEAKS, FORGET ABOUT MARRIAGE BECAUSE THAT'S THE FIRST AND LAST THING YOU'RE GOING TO SEE AND HEAR EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE'

'IF HE DOESN'T SHARE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOUR, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE A FRUSTRATING AND BORING LIFE TOGETHER'

'IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO SIT IN A ROOM WITHOUT TV, STARE INTO EACH OTHER'S EYES AND TALK AND TALK FOR HOURS ON END ABOUT NOTHING IN PARTICULAR, WELL IT'S NOT A GOOD SIGN'

'IF THERE ANYTHING ABOUT HIM THAT YOU VIEW WITH DISQUIET AT THE START OF RELATIONSHIP-THE WAY HE EATS, THE WAY HE SMELLS, HOW HIS EARLOBES CURL-RECONSIDER BECAUSE DISQUIET MIGHT ONE DAY TURN INTO DISGUST'

'ONLY MARRY SOMEONE WHOM YOU WON'T MIND SHARING YOUR PRECIOUS POSSESSIONS WITH'

'LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD TO SUSTAIN AND PROBABLY WON'T WORK'

'BE SENSITIVE TO THE PERSON YOU LOVE' There are, for example limits to what you say. Some things might cross the line and hurt him.

Finally 'NEVER LEND YOUR BOYFRIEND MONEY' Odds are you'll never get it back. It'll also be a source of friction. You'll feel aggrieved that he hasn't paid you back and he'll feel resentful that he's in your debt.

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